Monday 31 October 2011

Motivation For Your Spouse, How To Motivate Your Spouse

   For the motivation of one self is hard, it can be even harder if you are trying to motivate your spouse. You not only have to show them that you care and support them, but you also have to think about their feelings. Can you motivate your spouse without harming your relationship?  There are a lot of women and men who try to motivate their mates and end up single.

   Why is that?  Most of the time they end up being single because they push to hard. You want to give a nudge and you want your spouse to become motivated, but there is a point where your motivation tactic can end up being nagging. When you begin to nag your spouse that is when you begin to lose their respect and love.

   When it comes to encouraging your mate you want to make sure that you have a mutual respect for each other. Once you have that respect you are able to motivate your mate without making it a hostile situation. The first step to encouraging or motivating is supporting.

   You have to tell the person that you are willing to help them reach their goals by supporting them and encouraging them to be a better person. You will not only want to talk about their feelings, but your feelings as well. When you talk about your feelings and the way you see the relationship or situation. Then you need to talk about what it is that they need to be encouraged to do. When you talk about motivation, you need to know how they feel about the situation. When you open the communication channels you will find that the situation will be easier to handle and they won’t feel like you are being pushy.

   You have to be careful when it comes to encouraging your mate. You don’t want a little bit of encouraging to end up being some big huge fight. When you encourage your mate you want it to seem as less controlling and more concerning. You will want to make sure that you talk over things.

   Also, you need to think about the way that you say things. The way things are said are very important. You can take something that is to sound like a compliment, but it can be taken like an insult. The way that you say things include the tone of your voice and the words that you choose, so choose your words wisely so that you don’t end up regretting anything that you say. Also, take the time to make an understanding and discuss your needs. It is very hard to encourage a mate. It is hard because you are so close to this person and you don’t want to hurt their feelings or make them feel bad.

   Once you have the basis of the understanding because you two have talked, you will want to make sure that you use your words and actions to show them that you have all intentions of supporting and loving them no matter what. You will find that you can motivate or encourage your mate by telling them that you love them and need them. Give them a reason to reach for bigger and better ideas. You will be able to build an strong and healthy relationship and you will also be able to have a self reliant and independent partner as well.

   Motivation is important to your partnership and relationship. Your relationship will be able to move forward and continue to move forward smoothly because you two have found ways to motivate yourself and make the relationship stronger.

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